PARENT UPDATE: Upcoming Series, “Purple”

How we’re handling the sensitive, but necessary conversation on protecting our purity and standing on God’s Word.

February 6th, 2019 | Matt Ciaramitaro, Element Student Ministries (Warren)


About the Series

From social media to their schools, students’ lives have never been as saturated and influenced by the culture around them as they are today.  As the culture’s voice has grown louder, so has its influence on our understanding of relationships, pornography, and sexuality.  This month at ESM, we are going to dive into the truth on these difficult topics, shedding light onto many of the misconceptions that have been taught, and starting the conversations on how to have a healthy and godly perspective that counters that of our culture. 


Parent Content Guide

Week 1 (2/13) – Relationships and Dating

During this night we will have a panel of dating and married couples answering questions about what it looks like to have a godly relationship.  Key ideas:

  • When done right, relationships are designed by God to bring life and joy to us, but more importantly to bring glory to Him.

  • Spiritual lives are directly connected to our relationships, which is why it is so important to only date a godly person.

  • Who, when, and what are really tough questions to navigate in life when our emotions and feelings are involved.  Having trust adults and mentors is imperative for making godly decisions about our relationships.


Week 2 (2/20) – Pornography

This issue has dramatically affected my personal life, as well as 100% of the students that have gone through our ministry.  No one is left unaffected, and when we remain silent, the truth is often hidden.  The statistics speak for themselves:

  • 90% of boys under the age of 18 have seen porn, along with 60% of girls. 

  • 64% of young people, ages 13-21  actively seek out pornography as frequently as weekly or multiple times a week.

  • The average age of exposure to porn is 11 years old, with many students being exposed as early as seven to 8 years old.

  • More than 1/3 of all data transferred across the internet is related to porn.

  • The most common female role in porn is women in their 20’s, portraying teenage girls.

  • Nearly 1/3 of teens are sending their own nude photos to one another.

As you can see, the statistics are staggering.  My hope and prayer is that our students wouldn’t be deceived by the lies that pornography tells.  Please consider having your student join us this night as we tackle the issue together.  In addition, I hope our tackling of the issue will prompt your own discussions at home.   A great deal of value formation occurs between the eighth and 10th year of life, we want to be sure to plant the values of purity and faithfulness during these years.  We also want to set ourselves up to be the experts on these topics for our kids, instead of being silent, which communicates it is not important.  Below are a few links that I believe will be helpful resources.


Week 3 (2/27) – Sexuality (homosexuality and gender debates)

The bottom line is that these conversations are happening every day, not just in the media.  It is imperative that our students understand how to respond to these issues from a biblical foundation, or at least know we are ready to address their questions when they have them.  These are the questions they are asking, and if we don’t teach our children, culture will.  Key ideas:

  • Pursuing our own desires a part from God’s word is sin, a rejection of God’s truth.

  • A healthy understanding of what it means to be a godly man or woman.

  • We are a safe place to discuss their own personal questions, feelings, and doubts.

Questions? Concerns?

We understand this is sensitive subject matter, but believe that it’s important for our students to hear truth that cuts through cultures lies. If you have questions, please reach out to Pastor Matt.